David Pollay was in a New York City taxi cab and here’s what happened to him. “I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, the car skidded, the tires squealed, and at the very last moment our car stopped just one inch from the other car’s back-end. I couldn’t believe it. But then I couldn’t believe what happened next. The driver of … Continue reading The Garbage Truck
Take a break from your routine and practice slowing down during this unique Guided Mindfulness Session. I can help you activate your body, improving concentration and reducing stress. Especially, great for newcomers or those that can’t sit still! Mindfulness can help you create some time to think clearer. I can teach you how to be more self aware, even for a few minutes a day, which will help you discover that ‘me-time’ is possible. This ‘Me-time’ is crucial for your Well-being, and provides you with a goal to improve not only yourself, but the well-being of the family too. Everyone … Continue reading Walk in Nature – ASD
Life is like a slice of pizza. It looks delicious in an advertisement. But when we actually have it, it is not as good as we imagined. If you envy someone’s life, remember the pizza in the ad – it always looks better than it is! Continue reading Life is like a slice of pizza.
It’s not your problem – truly “get” that everyone’s health, wealth and happiness is 100% their responsibility. Not yours. Feels good already, doesn’t it? Learn to see your needs and feelings as important – it’s not OK for people to take up your time and leave you depleted and anxious whenever they want. Protect yourself – create strong boundaries with others. The stronger the boundary the more respect they will show you. Be clear with others – how much time and energy you are prepared to give. “I will pop by for 20 minutes”. Create distance – limit your time … Continue reading Top tips for dealing with draining friends
Almost every parent of a child has encountered a child’s meltdowns and/or tantrums. But dealing with an autistic child can be slightly different. So we’re going to give you some strategies for calming tantrums and meltdowns that actually work. First, it’s important to differentiate between tantrums and meltdowns because for a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder, they are not the same thing. A tantrum is a cluster of undesirable behaviours that are related to the child wanting something that he or she can’t have. Meltdowns for the autistic child are undesirable behaviours that are the result of sensory overload. … Continue reading Meltdown v Tantrum
Sensory-Friendly Clothes for the Autistic Child Clothing for the autistic child can cover a wide range of needs. What is important or helpful with one child may be totally different than what is needed by another child. Fortunately, today, there are many brands of clothing specifically designed for the autistic child. Some of these companies were started by parents of autistic children in order to make available what was previously lacking—and needed—on the market. Here is a list of some of the common issues that appropriate clothing addresses. Sensory-friendly (soft). Some children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) find clothing that … Continue reading Sensory-Friendly Clothes for the Autistic Child
Smarter Living: So you’ve made a terrible mistake. The first step to correcting a monumental blunder is to acknowledge to yourself that it was indeed a mistake. Then, don’t allow it to define you or your self-worth. From there, the way out comes in low-risk baby steps. If it happens to be a mistake you continue to make, do whatever you can to stop making the situation worse. If you need some help making a plan or advise on a strategy to alter your way out of the situation, get in touch. Contact Continue reading Smarter Living
I have come across a number of articles in various publications, which highlight the difficulties that individuals on the Autistic Spectrum are having when it comes to getting groceries delivered to their homes. If you are deemed as in the high risk category by the Government, you should have been given a priority slot for deliveries, however if your health issue or disability does not fit their criteria, you have to rely on neighbours or family members to get supplies. Autism is not in the Government list. Getting through to your local Asda/Sainsbury/Tesco is another story, and waiting for 4 … Continue reading Autism and accessing Home Deliveries
If you would like to sleep more peacefully, as you lay your head on the pillow, think of the people you are grateful to, or the times you helped others and felt good about yourself. It will warm your heart, gifting you with more peaceful sleep. Some ideas from clients which may help: “I visualise the Hibs team minutes before the final whistle of the Scottish Cup Final in 2016, and fall asleep happy!” “12 years ago, I used to be a carer in a Nursing Home, and I think of all the ladies that I helped, and made … Continue reading Peaceful Sleeping strategy
Do memories cause you pain? Practice being in the present moment. Turn your attention to the here and now. Notice that your thoughts subside when you focus on the present. As your thoughts quiet, so too, the memories, because memories are in essence thoughts. Continue reading Present Moment
Not everyone is able to come out of Lockdown, for a variety of reasons, and I thought it would be helpful to supply a couple of download links, so that you can print off your own signs for the window/door. Someone in this House has a weak Immune System Self Isolating Continue reading Posters for Shielding
When you have an unpleasant feeling, don’t grab hold of it and turn it over and over. Instead leave it alone so it can flow. The wave of emotion will naturally recede on its own, as long as you don’t feed it by dwelling on it. For instance, to get food unstuck from a saucepan, just pour water in the pan and wait. After a while the food will loosen on its own. Continue reading Letting go of Unpleasant Feelings
We know the world only through the window of our mind. When our mind is noisy, the world is as well. And when our mind is peaceful, the world is too. Knowing our minds is just as important as trying to change the world. Are looking to change your world into a more peaceful one? Looking to alter your perception or just needing some Space? Join me for a walk in nature, and find some peace within your self, while learning ways to take control of your own life and time. Get in touch and let me help realise this … Continue reading Do you live in a Noisy World?
It is easy to say that ‘I can’t do’. When faced with a challenge, what are you more likely to say in this instance? An upcoming interview or a meeting? Perhaps, you have been asked to speak to an audience or give a presentation? Asked by someone to do something you feel is too much? The above picture says a lot more than the words it conveys. Are you the person holding the card or the one with the scissors? I can help you to overcome fear, or dread with challenges in life, and believe me, nothing is insurmountable if … Continue reading Can do or Can’t do?
Most people think that when they finish school, then no more study is required. On the same principle if an athlete develops a strong body and then stops training, their muscles grow weak and waste away. Likewise, the mind grows weak, if we stop exercising it. Make it a rule in your life to study for 30 minutes a day, whether that is reading about something in a book, online or watching something in nature. Even practice adding and subtracting in your mind for a few minutes; so instead of reaching for the calculator, try to do without. Many people … Continue reading Exercising your memory
One way that we can adapt to new challenges in life is by keeping things as simple as possible – As the photo above suggests. You can only do as much as you can with with what you have. Even if you have a little to give, it is better than nothing. Stay safe and take care of your self. Continue reading Dealing with Change
Just like the seasons that change nature and our environment, we as humans will change as we adapt to life after this pandemic. Continue reading A time for Change
The word loneliness is one that is never really mentioned, except in the news or by people talking about others. It is viewed as a desperate sort of subject and one best avoided, as it only affects certain types etc etc. Loneliness is a subjective feeling about the gap between a person’s desired levels of social contact and their actual level of social contact. It refers to the perceived quality of the person’s relationships. Loneliness is never desired and lessening these feelings can take a long time. Social isolation is an objective measure of the number of contacts that people … Continue reading Loneliness
Humility: Letting someone ahead of you in line when you see they are in a hurry is an act of humility. Cleaning the bathroom of your office, even though you own the company, is an example of humility. … An athlete who credits his success to his teammates, even though he has great skill, shows humility. If you would like to learn how to re-balance your outlook on life, here are some pointers: Listen and empathise – Listening empathetically to others shows you value them, and may clarify what you do and do not know. Become more curious – Opening … Continue reading Humility
The talking therapies are a form of storytelling, where many conclusions are possible. A good therapist teaches you to get along with the world, not to blow it up. Mindfulness walks can help you get some peace and quiet in your mind, and help to offload some of the negativity surrounding your life. Come and join me for an hour that will start to change your life. Continue reading A good therapist
Western medicine emphasizes surgery far too much. Doctors want to take out things that are not wanted. When we have something irregular in our body, too often they advise us to have an operation. The same seems true in psychotherapy. Most therapists want to help us throw out what is unwanted and keep only what is wanted. But what is left may not be very much. If we try to throw away what we don’t want, we may throw away most of ourselves. Here at Change Therapy, I will help you transform your life and find a way to remain … Continue reading Non-Surgery
How to deal with Quiet Stress “Despite getting a bad rap over the years, expressing anger or frustration is far healthier than smiling sweetly while feeling quietly stressed.” according to Prof Cooper of Manchester University. “There is a growing epidemic of people who don’t voice their anger, and suffer just as much.” When she was growing up, Kate was aware her father had a temper. “He would fly off the handle very easily. My mother was forever telling him to calm down before he had a heart attack,” she remembers. “Growing up, if my brother or I ever lost our … Continue reading How to deal with Quiet Stress.
Can you train yourself to be more optimistic? In this current pandemic you may ask? With so much depressing news filtering in to our living rooms these days, the general mood of society is one of despair and sadness. Lockdowns restricting where we can go, and social distancing in place preventing us from human contact that we seek. If you want to change the way that you feel, try and learn one of, or all of the following: Widen your possibilities. Whenever you catch yourself expecting a catastrophe, stop. That is only one possibility. Imagine two other outcomes, one … Continue reading Can you train yourself to be more optimistic?
Eat your veggies. You’re not likely to forget this message. Getting adequate vegetables, especially cruciferous ones including broccoli, cabbage and dark leafy greens, may help improve memory. Try a kale salad or substitute collard greens for a tortilla in your next sandwich wrap. Broccoli stir-fry also is an excellent option for lunch or dinner. Be sweet on berries and cherries. Berries — especially dark ones such as blackberries, blueberries and cherries — are a rich source of anthocyanins and other flavonoids that may support memory function. Enjoy a handful of berries for a snack, mixed into cereal or baked into … Continue reading Four Natural Memory Boosters
Over-the-counter drug linked to 31% increased cardiac arrest risk, with the figure rising to 50% for diclofenac, says research There have been fresh calls for restrictions on the sale of the painkiller ibuprofen after another study found it heightens the risk of cardiac arrest. Taking the over-the-counter drug was associated with a 31% increased risk, researchers in Denmark found. Other medicines from the same group of painkillers, known as non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs), presented an even higher risk, according to the findings published on Wednesday in the European Heart Journal. Diclofenac, available over the counter in the UK until 2015 … Continue reading Calls for ibuprofen sale restrictions after study finds cardiac arrest risk
Our cognitive ability is not fixed. Scores on intelligence tests vary depending on the circumstances at the time of testing – how tired you are, how well nourished, how anxious you are. These are not the only factors that make a difference. Andrew Lim and colleagues at Toronto University carried out tests on 3000 ‘older’ participants at different times of the year to assess cognitive functioning, measuring thinking and concentration skills, as well as physiological tests to look for early signs of Alzheimer’s disease. The outcome was that people who tested in Summer and early Autumn obtained significantly higher scores, … Continue reading Give your Intellect a Spring clean
Drug improves social skills of autism patients in US trials A new drug can improve social skills in both adults and children with autism, scientists have revealed. The studies showed that those on the spectrum would be helped to be able to empathise with others. Scientists at Stanford University in the USA are excited about these revelations. The name of the drug is Vasopressin. There is no cure for Autism, however research increasingly indicates that earlier therapy can have a markedly beneficial effect. The full report can be viewed through this link : Hormone reduces social impairment in kids with … Continue reading Drug improves social skills of autism patients in US trials
Do you Imitate? The curiosity of the gentleman who, seeing someone shrug their shoulders, instantaneously and voluntarily, shrugs his own shoulders, has elicited several similar accounts. It may even occur when, for example, watching the news on TV and seeing a person shrug their shoulders – the viewer feels the urge to imitate. Similar such behaviours include waving and blinking, with a further variation of “feeling grievous pain” on hearing someone describe falling over and injuring a limb. This phenomenon has a name, Echopraxia, and could, it is thought, be related to copying behaviours common in infancy. Continue reading Do you Imitate?
Massive thanks to Stephen Newlin at Business Gateway for publishing an advert promoting Change Therapy in the Buzz (Business News) magazine. Have a look; 3 minute read please. The link to get the download is https://www.eastlothian.gov.uk/downloads/download/12586/east_lothian_business_buzz_newsletter The service I provide, is free. I have a life long disability which prevents me working again (career wise), so with the help and support of Business Gateway, we have come up with this Social Enterprise (unpaid) idea in which I can try to help people overcome challenges that they may face,by utilizing my Psychology and Counselling skills to make positive change happen. Did … Continue reading Walking in Nature – Walk and Talk
Uncertainty about coronavirus spreads anxiety through social contagion. Here’s a way to minimize that. Stocking up on large amounts of toilet paper when you see others doing so is an example of social contagion.Credit Getty Images Anxiety is a strange beast. I have learned that anxiety and its close cousin, panic, are both born from fear. I know that fear’s main evolutionary function is helping us survive. In fact, fear is the oldest survival mechanism we have. Fear helps us learn to avoid dangerous situations in the future through a process called negative reinforcement. For example, if we step … Continue reading The Coronavirus Anxiety Cycle