Each Day

Each day is a fresh beginning For yesterday has gone, Another chance to start anew To change things and move on. Another opportunity To love and smile and give, And act with generosity To look up and laugh and live. Each morning is a fresh, clean page As yet unwritten on, The threshold of an unlived day But not yet walked upon. So choose how you will live this day As on your way you go, For through our acts we all leave tracks Like footprints in the snow. (Kathleen Gillum) Continue reading Each Day

Signs of a toxic friendship

8 Signs of a toxic friendship 1. Putting You Down Constantly You should feel like your friend’s equal, giving and receiving positive feedback that makes you both feel good. However, a toxic friend may find ways to make you feel like you’re less than they are. For example, they might draw attention to your insecurities and reinforce them as true. Or, they might discourage you from trying to achieve your dreams (telling you that they’re not realistic for someone like you). 2. Blame Everyone makes mistakes in relationships. Good friends can apologize for their part in such arguments or other … Continue reading Signs of a toxic friendship

Good friendship qualities

What are good friendship qualities? It comes down to 5 crucial qualities in my opinion, yet there may be more. Anyone wish to comment? Nourish. The friendship nourishes both individuals. Each feels supported and cared for and both look forward to each other’s company. Trust. Each knows they can count on each other to be honest and accepting, even when one or both change. Commitment. Both are prepared to put time and effort into the relationship even when physically apart. Balance. The give and take of a relationship balances out over time, as each provide support when required. Relationship. This … Continue reading Good friendship qualities

Uncertainty

All around the world, people remain uncertain about the future. I don’t know what the outcome will be, however I have continued to use some strategies to keep myself going. I want to share them with you, in the hope that you may get some benefit from this particular method. A) Do something every day to reduce anxiety; whether it is a relaxation technique, exercising or getting in touch with some friends. This all amounts to finding some calm in your daily existence. B) Stay informed. Decide to allocate yourself 30 minutes each day to check the Local news and … Continue reading Uncertainty

Time is like a River

“Time is like a river. You cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of your life!” “For what it’s worth… it’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you … Continue reading Time is like a River

Body Image

Body image is something that many people are concerned about and which has a negative effect on their Mental Health. Feelings of being low or depressed contribute to anxieties around their appearance, especially when out in the public domain. Finding clothes that change our outward appearance helps, yet it is inside that the greatest challenges are, which thousands of people have to face each day of their lives. Below are some suggestions which may help in coping with Body image: Practice Mindfulness – this involves breathing methods, guided imagery, and other practices to relax the body and mind and help … Continue reading Body Image

Finding Meaning – Every Day

It is easy to become complacent in life and just do enough to get by. Have you taken things for granted? Can you be quite content to let others do the running? We all get like this at one time or another, and it is easy to sit back and watch. I was on the phone to a friend the other day asking how they were, and they said that they were lacking motivation to get up and do anything; preferring to watch some box-sets on Netflix for a few days, eating the remains of the Christmas chocolates and other … Continue reading Finding Meaning – Every Day

Stay in the Present

Mindfulness can be thought as a way of being.. that helps us be in contact with our experience on a moment to moment basis. Mindfulness can help improve Wellbeing. In its simplest form, use Sight, Sound, Taste, Touch and Smell to centre yourself in the PRESENT moment – rather than concentrating on what may happen in the future or what might have happened in the past. I can offer you online sessions in guided Mindfulness, from the comfort of your own home, so get in touch here. Continue reading Stay in the Present

Change the way you approach a problem.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein. I love this quote by Albert Einstein. What do you think when you read it? Sometimes I wish the governments of the world would the above quote and change the way they approach their problems; it would certainly be refreshing for us all! We can easily get caught up in a cycle of negativity while trying to overcome problems, and before long they seem bigger than before, as the same way of thinking brings about the same results. If you have a problem, … Continue reading Change the way you approach a problem.

Coping with Anxiety – Watching the Food Intake

  6 – Watching the food intake I know, it is so easy to eat half that packet of biscuits while consuming 4 coffees all before lunchtime! You didn’t do this while at work prior to the pandemic did you? What has changed? Too much time on our hands? From the previous article, on Shaking your Body Alive, I invited you to adjust your sleeping times, and start to waken at 6am. You body takes time to change to your new regime, and will still urge you to eat when it says so; it has been pre-programmed to require energy … Continue reading Coping with Anxiety – Watching the Food Intake

Coping with Anxiety – Shake your Body Alive!!

Change Therapy – Ways to cope with anxiety during and after COVID-19   5 – Shake your body alive Instead of sleeping in your bed until noon (or later) it is time to alter the body clock! Leave the phone on silent and stay away from the TV remote as long as possible from the time you waken. Set your alarm for 6am. Have a wash, taking extra care of your appearance – imagine you are going on a hot date! Take some time, whether in the shower or in front of the mirror, to tell yourself what you want … Continue reading Coping with Anxiety – Shake your Body Alive!!

Coping with Anxiety – Moving up a gear with Fitness

Change Therapy – Ways to cope with anxiety during and after COVID-19   4 – Moving up a gear with Fitness       Thank you for continuing to follow this short helping strategy for anyone who needs a little help in changing their way of life. Anxious or just a feeling of never ending sameness, can put you into a negative cycle and promote unhealthy habits. I hope these instructions can assist positive change to your routine. Stand in an area where you feel safe, for instance if you have balance issues, stand beside a wall. Now I want you to march … Continue reading Coping with Anxiety – Moving up a gear with Fitness

Coping with Anxiety – Improve Fitness

Change Therapy – Ways to cope with anxiety during and after COVID-19 3 – Improve fitness Being advised to stay inside your home during this pandemic has its challenges, which may also have increased the level of anxieties experienced. It is a worrying time regarding the health of the people in the world, but you have to try and concentrate on YOU for now. If you were to remain seated watching TV or sleeping most of the day away, adding in the extra comfort eating while being entertained, it is reasonable to presume that your weight will increase too. It … Continue reading Coping with Anxiety – Improve Fitness

Coping with Anxiety – Re-enter the Community

Change Therapy – Ways to cope with anxiety during and after COVID-19 2 – Re-enter the Community Continuing on from the last suggestion of  Engaging in a Useful Activity, it is helpful to try to take things slowly at first. If you decided to do a bit of spring cleaning or learn a new hobby like painting or playing a musical instrument, please take baby-steps and go at an easy pace. There is however a need to re-engage with society, even though it is not exactly as you may remember it. If you suffer from anxiety, you can find yourself … Continue reading Coping with Anxiety – Re-enter the Community

Coping with Anxiety – Engaging in a Useful Activity

Change Therapy – Ways to cope with anxiety during and after COVID-19   1 – Engage in a Useful Activity Concern over the outbreak of the Coronavirus is perfectly common. Some individuals, however, can experience extreme anxiety which can affect their everyday lives. My first suggestion to help manage anxiety in this present situation, would be to try and engage your brain in a useful activity. I am not talking about watching the latest box set of your favourite drama on TV! Decide to tidy up one room in your house, like a spring cleaning? Go through your items and … Continue reading Coping with Anxiety – Engaging in a Useful Activity

Taking someone for granted?

A short story highlighting how we can take a partner for granted. I know that I do this, how about you? A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard. The door of his wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog. Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against … Continue reading Taking someone for granted?

Let me have the courage to believe in myself

Let me have the courage to believe in myself Not only on the days when I’m going great and nothing seems impossible, But on the days when the world looks lousy and I’m losing. And the road ahead seems too hard; When I wonder if I’m brave enough, smart enough, Strong enough, and I must be crazy if I try Don’t let me quit – Let me have courage in myself. No matter how many people discourage me, doubt, Laugh at me, warn me, think me a fool… Don’t let me listen. Let me hear another voice saying, “You can … Continue reading Let me have the courage to believe in myself

Give Thanks

Give Thanks For the spouse who hogs the bed covers at night, because that means they aren’t somewhere else. For the teenager who is not doing dishes, but is watching TV, because that means they are at home and not on the streets. For the taxes that I pay, because that means I am employed. For the mess to clean after a party, because it means I have been surrounded by friends. For the clothes that fit a little too snug, because they tell me I have enough to eat. For my shadow that watches me work, because it means … Continue reading Give Thanks

Top tips for dealing with draining friends

It’s not your problem – truly “get” that everyone’s health, wealth and happiness is 100% their responsibility. Not yours. Feels good already, doesn’t it? Learn to see your needs and feelings as important – it’s not OK for people to     take up your time and leave you depleted and anxious whenever they want. Protect yourself – create strong boundaries with others. The stronger the boundary the more respect they will show you. Be clear with others – how much time and energy you are prepared to give. “I will pop by for 20 minutes”. Create distance – limit your time … Continue reading Top tips for dealing with draining friends

Humility

Humility: Letting someone ahead of you in line when you see they are in a hurry is an act of humility. Cleaning the bathroom of your office, even though you own the company, is an example of humility. … An athlete who credits his success to his teammates, even though he has great skill, shows humility. If you would like to learn how to re-balance your outlook on life, here are some pointers: Listen and empathise – Listening empathetically to others shows you value them, and may clarify what you do and do not know. Become more curious – Opening … Continue reading Humility