It is easy to become complacent in life and just do enough to get by. Have you taken things for granted? Can you be quite content to let others do the running? We all get like this at one time or another, and it is easy to sit back and watch. I was on the phone to a friend the other day asking how they were, and they said that they were lacking motivation to get up and do anything; preferring to watch some box-sets on Netflix for a few days, eating the remains of the Christmas chocolates and other … Continue reading Finding Meaning – Every Day
In need of a quick shut-eye? Don’t ignore your body and take some time to re-energize throughout the day. Maybe you didn’t get enough sleep last night, or just feel lethargic and cannot be bothered. There are many positive reasons for finding some time during the day to have some ‘me-time’ by closing your eyes for a quick nap. Naps boost alertness and improve motor performance, which is why you should feel energized after taking one. The length of your nap determines the benefits. 10 minutes to 30 minutes, may make you feel groggy on waking, but your body will … Continue reading Have a Nap
Change Therapy – Ways to cope with anxiety during and after COVID-19 3 – Improve fitness Being advised to stay inside your home during this pandemic has its challenges, which may also have increased the level of anxieties experienced. It is a worrying time regarding the health of the people in the world, but you have to try and concentrate on YOU for now. If you were to remain seated watching TV or sleeping most of the day away, adding in the extra comfort eating while being entertained, it is reasonable to presume that your weight will increase too. It … Continue reading Coping with Anxiety – Improve Fitness
Change Therapy – Ways to cope with anxiety during and after COVID-19 1 – Engage in a Useful Activity Concern over the outbreak of the Coronavirus is perfectly common. Some individuals, however, can experience extreme anxiety which can affect their everyday lives. My first suggestion to help manage anxiety in this present situation, would be to try and engage your brain in a useful activity. I am not talking about watching the latest box set of your favourite drama on TV! Decide to tidy up one room in your house, like a spring cleaning? Go through your items and … Continue reading Coping with Anxiety – Engaging in a Useful Activity
A short story highlighting how we can take a partner for granted. I know that I do this, how about you? A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard. The door of his wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog. Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against … Continue reading Taking someone for granted?
Worth A speaker started off his seminar by holding a £20 bill in the air. In a room of 200 people, he asked, “Who would like a £20 bill?”. Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this to one of you but first let me do this…” He proceeded to crumple up the bill. He then asked, “Who still wants it?” Still hands were up in the air. “Well, what if I do this?” He dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now … Continue reading Self Worth
From a young age I was aware that being out in the open countryside was good for you, both physically and mentally. As a wee boy, I would always feel better for having played outside. I was lucky enough to grow up near enough to woods and parks, so being able to run freely outside my home was second nature to me. Now, many decades later, I have come to appreciate that being out in the elements really is therapeutically good for you. And that is why I offer my clients the opportunity of doing what I call “Walking and Talking Therapy” – which … Continue reading Walk and Talk Therapy
Character My mother says she doesn’t care, About the colour of my hair. Or if my eyes are blue or brown. Or if my nose turns up or down. My mother says she doesn’t care, If I’m dark or if I’m fair, Or if I’m thin or if I’m fat. She doesn’t fret over things like that. It really doesn’t matter. But, if I cheat, or tell a lie, Or do mean things that make folks cry. Or if I’m rude or impolite, And do not try to do what’s right, Then that does really matter. It isn’t looks that … Continue reading Character
Give Thanks For the spouse who hogs the bed covers at night, because that means they aren’t somewhere else. For the teenager who is not doing dishes, but is watching TV, because that means they are at home and not on the streets. For the taxes that I pay, because that means I am employed. For the mess to clean after a party, because it means I have been surrounded by friends. For the clothes that fit a little too snug, because they tell me I have enough to eat. For my shadow that watches me work, because it means … Continue reading Give Thanks
David Pollay was in a New York City taxi cab and here’s what happened to him. “I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, the car skidded, the tires squealed, and at the very last moment our car stopped just one inch from the other car’s back-end. I couldn’t believe it. But then I couldn’t believe what happened next. The driver of … Continue reading The Garbage Truck
Life is like a slice of pizza. It looks delicious in an advertisement. But when we actually have it, it is not as good as we imagined. If you envy someone’s life, remember the pizza in the ad – it always looks better than it is! Continue reading Life is like a slice of pizza.
If you would like to sleep more peacefully, as you lay your head on the pillow, think of the people you are grateful to, or the times you helped others and felt good about yourself. It will warm your heart, gifting you with more peaceful sleep. Some ideas from clients which may help: “I visualise the Hibs team minutes before the final whistle of the Scottish Cup Final in 2016, and fall asleep happy!” “12 years ago, I used to be a carer in a Nursing Home, and I think of all the ladies that I helped, and made … Continue reading Peaceful Sleeping strategy
Do memories cause you pain? Practice being in the present moment. Turn your attention to the here and now. Notice that your thoughts subside when you focus on the present. As your thoughts quiet, so too, the memories, because memories are in essence thoughts. Continue reading Present Moment
When you have an unpleasant feeling, don’t grab hold of it and turn it over and over. Instead leave it alone so it can flow. The wave of emotion will naturally recede on its own, as long as you don’t feed it by dwelling on it. For instance, to get food unstuck from a saucepan, just pour water in the pan and wait. After a while the food will loosen on its own. Continue reading Letting go of Unpleasant Feelings