Assertiveness is a positive communication style. It’s the ability to stand up for ourselves in an open, courteous manner. Here’s what assertiveness entails: You have the option of expressing your thoughts or feelings. You have the option of requesting what you want or require. You can respectfully disagree. You have the ability to speak up for someone else. You are welcome to provide your thoughts and suggestions. You don’t have to feel bad about saying no. How to become more Assertive takes practice and committment. Sometimes assertive and aggressive behaviours get mixed up. The main difference between assertive and aggressive … Continue reading Being Assertive
How many of you reading this get distracted? Whether you are reading, talking or listening, many a time you will have experienced being distracted. It can be annoying, frustrating and takes you out of your stride until you can focus again. What about when we are listening to someone speak. It can take a lot of concentration to hear their voice and what subject they are talking about. Listening takes a lot of effort, and sometimes it is hard to shut out other noises. Can you think of times this happens to you? Sometimes it is not just noises that … Continue reading Distractions
The subject of Child Development was one of my favourite parts of learning while studying Psychology, and to this day, I continue to seek out different ideas from Therapists around the world to continue my development in this field. I believe that our childhood interaction with parents/carers contributes to the way in which we behave as an adult. As children are growing up, positive parenting improves their cognitive, social, and problem-solving skills. Positive parenting also influences the child’s reactions and helps them become more self aware adults. Therefore, in my opinion, positive interaction and stimulation are essential in the early … Continue reading Children learn what they live
Abraham Maslow was a psychologist in the twentieth century who pioneered the humanistic approach to psychology. He is best known for his hierarchy of needs. Maslow believed that human wants may be structured into a hierarchy, in order to better understand what motivates people. This hierarchy includes everything from basic needs like food and water to more complex ideals like self-fulfilment. When a lower need is met, the following needs in the hierarchy become our centre of attention, according to Maslow. These are the five categories of needs according to Maslow: Physiological Physiological needs – these are biological need for … Continue reading Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Gratitude Meditation – (Being Thankful) By taking a couple of minutes first thing in the morning when I wake, and then just before I retire for the night, I read the following gratitude statements. These help me to put life into perspective. Have a try and see for yourself? I am grateful for the air in my lungs. I am grateful for my heart that beats and keeps me alive. I am grateful for my senses that help me perceive the world. I am grateful for my comfortable bed. I am grateful for my clothes that protect me and keep … Continue reading Being Thankful
Do you make choices of your own free will, or are you being nudged along by an unseen force to comply? The Government, Retail and Medical professions, amongst many other industries employ strategies to shape your behaviour. Nudge theory is the science behind subtly leading people to the ‘right’ decision. It works on the principle that small actions can have a substantial impact on the way people behave. For organisations wanting to drive positive behaviour change, it’s a handy concept to know about. Nudge theory is also concerned with the design of choices, which influences the decisions we make. Nudge theory … Continue reading Are you being nudged?
All around the world, people remain uncertain about the future. I don’t know what the outcome will be, however I have continued to use some strategies to keep myself going. I want to share them with you, in the hope that you may get some benefit from this particular method. A) Do something every day to reduce anxiety; whether it is a relaxation technique, exercising or getting in touch with some friends. This all amounts to finding some calm in your daily existence. B) Stay informed. Decide to allocate yourself 30 minutes each day to check the Local news and … Continue reading Uncertainty
Laurel and Hardy? Charlie Chaplin? Who are they Dad, asked my kids recently. This made me feel a 100 years old and so out of the loop! Here I was trying to make Saturday afternoon more interesting and spending some … Continue reading Never heard of Laurel and Hardy?
Character My mother says she doesn’t care, About the colour of my hair. Or if my eyes are blue or brown. Or if my nose turns up or down. My mother says she doesn’t care, If I’m dark or if I’m fair, Or if I’m thin or if I’m fat. She doesn’t fret over things like that. It really doesn’t matter. But, if I cheat, or tell a lie, Or do mean things that make folks cry. Or if I’m rude or impolite, And do not try to do what’s right, Then that does really matter. It isn’t looks that … Continue reading Character
Give Thanks For the spouse who hogs the bed covers at night, because that means they aren’t somewhere else. For the teenager who is not doing dishes, but is watching TV, because that means they are at home and not on the streets. For the taxes that I pay, because that means I am employed. For the mess to clean after a party, because it means I have been surrounded by friends. For the clothes that fit a little too snug, because they tell me I have enough to eat. For my shadow that watches me work, because it means … Continue reading Give Thanks
In Madhanpur lived a very hard-working farmer named Gopal. He has three sons Ram, Laxman and Hanuman. All three were strong and healthy. But they were all lazy. Gopal was sad thinking about his sons and the future of his farmland. One day, Gopal got a flash of an idea. He called all his sons and said, “Ram! Laxman! and Hanuman – I have hidden a treasure in our farmland. You search and share the treasure among you.” The three sons were overjoyed. They went to the fields and started searching. Ram started from one end, Laxman searched from the … Continue reading The Farmer and his lazy sons
We have all heard the phrase “You shouldn’t care what other people think of you”. In my opinion, this is unwise. It matters a lot, depending on the relationship you have with the person saying their piece. If it is a family member, a friend or work colleague, then to be a liked and acknowledged part of that particular group does make a difference. We all want to be approved and accepted, as this is human nature. What others think of you in the context of a stranger in the street or passer- by, then their opinion should not … Continue reading Fear of Disapproval
Jack and Alex were friends. On a holiday they went into a forest. They were enjoying the beauty of nature. Suddenly they saw a bear coming at them. They were frightened. Alex who knew climbing trees, ran up to a tree and climbed up quickly. He did not think of Jack. Jack did not know tree climbing. Jack thought for a second. He had heard animals do not prefer dead bodies. He fell to the ground and held his breath. The bear sniffed him and thought he was dead. So, he went away. Alex asked Jack,” What did the bear … Continue reading Two friends and a Bear
Whatever happens, happens for the best… Story of Dr. Ahmed, Everything is Pre-planned Dr. Ahmed, a well-known cancer specialist, was on his way to another city for an important conference where he was to get an award in the field of Medical Research. He was really excited to attend the conference and to reach as shortly as possible. He had worked so long & hard on his research and felt his efforts deserved the award. However, after the plane takes off, within the next two hours, the plane made an emergency landing at the nearest airport due to some technical snag. … Continue reading Nothing happens by chance
Never judge others by their NO. Once a bird was searching for a home to lay her eggs and get shelter in the coming rainy season. In her search, she saw two trees and went to ask for shelter. When she asked the first tree. They refused to give her shelter. With disappointment, she went to the second tree. And the second tree, agreed to give her shelter. She made her home and laid her eggs and then the rainy season arrived. The rain was so heavy that the first tree fell and was carried away by the flood. The bird saw this and … Continue reading Never judge a No
A wolf was walking in the countryside. He found a sheep-skin spread on the ground. He thought, “If I wear this skin and get mixed up in the flock, the shepherd will not suspect me. At night, I will kill a stout sheep and then take him away with me”. The wolf covered himself with the sheep-skin and got mixed up with a flock of sheep. As he had expected, the shepherd took him as a sheep and shut him also in the pen. The wolf was waiting for the night. The shepherd had a feast that night. He sent … Continue reading Wolf in Sheep skin
Why is my life full of struggles? A rich man, every night, prays the same prayer to God. He repeats his prayers again and again on a daily basis. In his words, he would ask, “God, please do one favour for me, at least one favour — and I have been asking this my whole life. As clearly as I know, I am the most unhappy man on the earth. Why have you made my life full of problems? I am ready to exchange my difficulties with anybody else; anybody will do — just let me exchange my troubles with … Continue reading A thought of Struggling in Life
David Pollay was in a New York City taxi cab and here’s what happened to him. “I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, the car skidded, the tires squealed, and at the very last moment our car stopped just one inch from the other car’s back-end. I couldn’t believe it. But then I couldn’t believe what happened next. The driver of … Continue reading The Garbage Truck
Life is like a slice of pizza. It looks delicious in an advertisement. But when we actually have it, it is not as good as we imagined. If you envy someone’s life, remember the pizza in the ad – it always looks better than it is! Continue reading Life is like a slice of pizza.
We know the world only through the window of our mind. When our mind is noisy, the world is as well. And when our mind is peaceful, the world is too. Knowing our minds is just as important as trying to change the world. Are looking to change your world into a more peaceful one? Looking to alter your perception or just needing some Space? Join me for a walk in nature, and find some peace within your self, while learning ways to take control of your own life and time. Get in touch and let me help realise this … Continue reading Do you live in a Noisy World?
One way that we can adapt to new challenges in life is by keeping things as simple as possible – As the photo above suggests. You can only do as much as you can with with what you have. Even if you have a little to give, it is better than nothing. Stay safe and take care of your self. Continue reading Dealing with Change
If we become angry that we are angry, we will have two angers at the same time. This causes a negative cycle of anger and despair, where the world appears darker than it should. Observe your anger and understand its meaning; it will soon transform itself and appear less important. Becoming self-aware of the reason why the anger is in your life is a positive step to a better life, and lighter skies above. I can help you with Guided Mindfulness Walks; get in touch and together we will work to make life more manageable. Continue reading Coping with Anger