Character My mother says she doesn’t care, About the colour of my hair. Or if my eyes are blue or brown. Or if my nose turns up or down. My mother says she doesn’t care, If I’m dark or if I’m fair, Or if I’m thin or if I’m fat. She doesn’t fret over things like that. It really doesn’t matter. But, if I cheat, or tell a lie, Or do mean things that make folks cry. Or if I’m rude or impolite, And do not try to do what’s right, Then that does really matter. It isn’t looks that … Continue reading Character
Give Thanks For the spouse who hogs the bed covers at night, because that means they aren’t somewhere else. For the teenager who is not doing dishes, but is watching TV, because that means they are at home and not on the streets. For the taxes that I pay, because that means I am employed. For the mess to clean after a party, because it means I have been surrounded by friends. For the clothes that fit a little too snug, because they tell me I have enough to eat. For my shadow that watches me work, because it means … Continue reading Give Thanks
In Madhanpur lived a very hard-working farmer named Gopal. He has three sons Ram, Laxman and Hanuman. All three were strong and healthy. But they were all lazy. Gopal was sad thinking about his sons and the future of his farmland. One day, Gopal got a flash of an idea. He called all his sons and said, “Ram! Laxman! and Hanuman – I have hidden a treasure in our farmland. You search and share the treasure among you.” The three sons were overjoyed. They went to the fields and started searching. Ram started from one end, Laxman searched from the … Continue reading The Farmer and his lazy sons
We have all heard the phrase “You shouldn’t care what other people think of you”. In my opinion, this is unwise. It matters a lot, depending on the relationship you have with the person saying their piece. If it is a family member, a friend or work colleague, then to be a liked and acknowledged part of that particular group does make a difference. We all want to be approved and accepted, as this is human nature. What others think of you in the context of a stranger in the street or passer- by, then their opinion should not … Continue reading Fear of Disapproval
Jack and Alex were friends. On a holiday they went into a forest. They were enjoying the beauty of nature. Suddenly they saw a bear coming at them. They were frightened. Alex who knew climbing trees, ran up to a tree and climbed up quickly. He did not think of Jack. Jack did not know tree climbing. Jack thought for a second. He had heard animals do not prefer dead bodies. He fell to the ground and held his breath. The bear sniffed him and thought he was dead. So, he went away. Alex asked Jack,” What did the bear … Continue reading Two friends and a Bear
Whatever happens, happens for the best… Story of Dr. Ahmed, Everything is Pre-planned Dr. Ahmed, a well-known cancer specialist, was on his way to another city for an important conference where he was to get an award in the field of Medical Research. He was really excited to attend the conference and to reach as shortly as possible. He had worked so long & hard on his research and felt his efforts deserved the award. However, after the plane takes off, within the next two hours, the plane made an emergency landing at the nearest airport due to some technical snag. … Continue reading Nothing happens by chance
From our day of Baking cakes, I can proudly state that this was very successful. Our son finding relief from his daily struggles with extreme sensitivities to textures, smells and keeping clean, even though only for a couple of hours, is something that we will revisit as often as we can. Our neighbours, family and friends will benefit over the coming months I am sure! The other positive thing that we discovered, is the decrease in anxieties during the busy times of preparation; even waiting for the finished cakes, were less demanding times for our son. Naturally as a parent, … Continue reading Baking with our Autistic Child – Part 3
Thinking that the kitchen table would be in an absolute mess of flour, sugar and sticky dough, I was pleasantly surprised that this was not the case. Every plate and utensil was cleaned as soon as they were finished with, and this may have something to do with having a hot bowl of soapy water readily available – bubbles and children often go very well indeed! So, after putting the cup cakes in the oven, then having a light lunch, in anticipation of leaving plenty room for the finished article, it was time to get the icing sugar made. This … Continue reading Baking with our Autistic Child – Part 2
Most of the people in the UK have recently had more time on their hands than usual, due to the Lockdown. We were fortunate that we were pretty well stocked up with items that could keep our children busy and engaged. One of the popular activities for families has been trying out Baking from home. The supermarkets and shops emptied of the necessary ingredients of flour, icing and sugar, very quickly and for a couple of months, these items above were like ‘gold dust’ to have. One of the concerns we had prior to our decision to make Cakes, … Continue reading Baking with our Autistic Child – Part 1
Never judge others by their NO. Once a bird was searching for a home to lay her eggs and get shelter in the coming rainy season. In her search, she saw two trees and went to ask for shelter. When she asked the first tree. They refused to give her shelter. With disappointment, she went to the second tree. And the second tree, agreed to give her shelter. She made her home and laid her eggs and then the rainy season arrived. The rain was so heavy that the first tree fell and was carried away by the flood. The bird saw this and … Continue reading Never judge a No
A wolf was walking in the countryside. He found a sheep-skin spread on the ground. He thought, “If I wear this skin and get mixed up in the flock, the shepherd will not suspect me. At night, I will kill a stout sheep and then take him away with me”. The wolf covered himself with the sheep-skin and got mixed up with a flock of sheep. As he had expected, the shepherd took him as a sheep and shut him also in the pen. The wolf was waiting for the night. The shepherd had a feast that night. He sent … Continue reading Wolf in Sheep skin
David Pollay was in a New York City taxi cab and here’s what happened to him. “I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, the car skidded, the tires squealed, and at the very last moment our car stopped just one inch from the other car’s back-end. I couldn’t believe it. But then I couldn’t believe what happened next. The driver of … Continue reading The Garbage Truck
Are you a controlling parent? Are you devoting too much attention to your child? If the answer is yes, then turn some of that attention towards your parents. If you are good to your own parents, then your child will learn how to treat you in the future. Continue reading Are you a controlling parent?
Life is like a slice of pizza. It looks delicious in an advertisement. But when we actually have it, it is not as good as we imagined. If you envy someone’s life, remember the pizza in the ad – it always looks better than it is! Continue reading Life is like a slice of pizza.
It’s not your problem – truly “get” that everyone’s health, wealth and happiness is 100% their responsibility. Not yours. Feels good already, doesn’t it? Learn to see your needs and feelings as important – it’s not OK for people to take up your time and leave you depleted and anxious whenever they want. Protect yourself – create strong boundaries with others. The stronger the boundary the more respect they will show you. Be clear with others – how much time and energy you are prepared to give. “I will pop by for 20 minutes”. Create distance – limit your time … Continue reading Top tips for dealing with draining friends
Smarter Living: So you’ve made a terrible mistake. The first step to correcting a monumental blunder is to acknowledge to yourself that it was indeed a mistake. Then, don’t allow it to define you or your self-worth. From there, the way out comes in low-risk baby steps. If it happens to be a mistake you continue to make, do whatever you can to stop making the situation worse. If you need some help making a plan or advise on a strategy to alter your way out of the situation, get in touch. Contact Continue reading Smarter Living
I have come across a number of articles in various publications, which highlight the difficulties that individuals on the Autistic Spectrum are having when it comes to getting groceries delivered to their homes. If you are deemed as in the high risk category by the Government, you should have been given a priority slot for deliveries, however if your health issue or disability does not fit their criteria, you have to rely on neighbours or family members to get supplies. Autism is not in the Government list. Getting through to your local Asda/Sainsbury/Tesco is another story, and waiting for 4 … Continue reading Autism and accessing Home Deliveries
If you would like to sleep more peacefully, as you lay your head on the pillow, think of the people you are grateful to, or the times you helped others and felt good about yourself. It will warm your heart, gifting you with more peaceful sleep. Some ideas from clients which may help: “I visualise the Hibs team minutes before the final whistle of the Scottish Cup Final in 2016, and fall asleep happy!” “12 years ago, I used to be a carer in a Nursing Home, and I think of all the ladies that I helped, and made … Continue reading Peaceful Sleeping strategy
Do memories cause you pain? Practice being in the present moment. Turn your attention to the here and now. Notice that your thoughts subside when you focus on the present. As your thoughts quiet, so too, the memories, because memories are in essence thoughts. Continue reading Present Moment
Not everyone is able to come out of Lockdown, for a variety of reasons, and I thought it would be helpful to supply a couple of download links, so that you can print off your own signs for the window/door. Someone in this House has a weak Immune System Self Isolating Continue reading Posters for Shielding
When you have an unpleasant feeling, don’t grab hold of it and turn it over and over. Instead leave it alone so it can flow. The wave of emotion will naturally recede on its own, as long as you don’t feed it by dwelling on it. For instance, to get food unstuck from a saucepan, just pour water in the pan and wait. After a while the food will loosen on its own. Continue reading Letting go of Unpleasant Feelings
We know the world only through the window of our mind. When our mind is noisy, the world is as well. And when our mind is peaceful, the world is too. Knowing our minds is just as important as trying to change the world. Are looking to change your world into a more peaceful one? Looking to alter your perception or just needing some Space? Join me for a walk in nature, and find some peace within your self, while learning ways to take control of your own life and time. Get in touch and let me help realise this … Continue reading Do you live in a Noisy World?
It is easy to say that ‘I can’t do’. When faced with a challenge, what are you more likely to say in this instance? An upcoming interview or a meeting? Perhaps, you have been asked to speak to an audience or give a presentation? Asked by someone to do something you feel is too much? The above picture says a lot more than the words it conveys. Are you the person holding the card or the one with the scissors? I can help you to overcome fear, or dread with challenges in life, and believe me, nothing is insurmountable if … Continue reading Can do or Can’t do?
Most people think that when they finish school, then no more study is required. On the same principle if an athlete develops a strong body and then stops training, their muscles grow weak and waste away. Likewise, the mind grows weak, if we stop exercising it. Make it a rule in your life to study for 30 minutes a day, whether that is reading about something in a book, online or watching something in nature. Even practice adding and subtracting in your mind for a few minutes; so instead of reaching for the calculator, try to do without. Many people … Continue reading Exercising your memory
One way that we can adapt to new challenges in life is by keeping things as simple as possible – As the photo above suggests. You can only do as much as you can with with what you have. Even if you have a little to give, it is better than nothing. Stay safe and take care of your self. Continue reading Dealing with Change
We as humans are very similar to these trees, as they go through the transformation of life too. Continue reading Seasons of Change
Just like the seasons that change nature and our environment, we as humans will change as we adapt to life after this pandemic. Continue reading A time for Change
The word loneliness is one that is never really mentioned, except in the news or by people talking about others. It is viewed as a desperate sort of subject and one best avoided, as it only affects certain types etc etc. Loneliness is a subjective feeling about the gap between a person’s desired levels of social contact and their actual level of social contact. It refers to the perceived quality of the person’s relationships. Loneliness is never desired and lessening these feelings can take a long time. Social isolation is an objective measure of the number of contacts that people … Continue reading Loneliness