How to deal with Quiet Stress.

How to deal with Quiet Stress

“Despite getting a bad rap over the years, expressing anger or frustration is far healthier than smiling sweetly while feeling quietly stressed.” according to Prof Cooper of Manchester University.

“There is a growing epidemic of people who don’t voice their anger, and suffer just as much.”

When she was growing up, Kate was aware her father had a temper. “He would fly off the handle very easily. My mother was forever telling him to calm down before he had a heart attack,” she remembers.

“Growing up, if my brother or I ever lost our temper, our mother would say: ‘Oh, please don’t have a temper like your father.’”

As a result, Kate learned to keep her temper in check, and saw keeping cool in the face of chaos as a positive thing…which led to all sorts of problems for Kate, including weight loss, insomnia and depression.


Look out for it:

Are you unhappy with a situation yet doing nothing to change it. and drinking or eating more than usual, over-thinking situations but not talking about them out loud or procrastinating while falling behind on your to-do-list? If so you could be quietly stressed.

Speak Up:

Not speaking up for yourself is often a symptom of quiet stress. If someone was sitting next to you on the bus playing their music too loud, politely ask them to turn it down. If your boss is overloading you with work, calmly tell them and discuss ways to address the situation. Don’t quietly stew.

Treat it as you would regular stress:

In the same way that regular exercise, a balanced diet, mindfulness, meditation, not being overloaded with work etc, help to counter externally shown stress, the same applies to quiet stress.

Talk to somebody:

Whether it is a trusted friend or therapist, talking helps to dissipate quiet stress.

Write it down:

If you are unable to speak up about what is bothering you, write down your feelings after the event, in a quiet environment. Writing down “I should have done this” or “I should of said that” or “this is how I am feeling…..”. This is especially helpful for introverts or those who struggle with confrontation.




About ChangeTherapy

I consider myself someone who 'thinks outside the box'; rather than following strict regimented instruction during the helping therapies; my belief is to frame therapies around the person, rather than try and make a person fit into a certain box. Educated at George Watson's College, in Edinburgh and then worked in Office Management/Administration for Local Government and Major Construction, before owning a retail Newsagent in the Blackhall area of Edinburgh. My training in Reiki and Healing started in 1997, and after attending college to complete my Counselling qualifications, I studied for 6 years with the Open University to obtain my Bachelor of Science degree, with Honours, studying Psychology and Counselling (including Autism) I have been involved for 22 years directly and indirectly in many capacities in the fields of Counselling for Autism, Special Needs, Adoption, HRT, Post-Cardiac Recovery, Alcohol Addiction, Gambling Addiction, Obsessive Compulsive Disorders, Anxiety and Sadness and Floating Harbor Syndrome. Mindfulness Practitioner; Reiki and Meditation Practitioner. Mind Coach Practitioner.
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1 Response to How to deal with Quiet Stress.

  1. Ankur Mithal says:

    Well said. I can identify with what you say. And, I think writing has helped me channel my anger and frustration.


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