Growing Up is Optional

Every so often I come across an inspirational story, and as such, I would like to share this particular one with you, with the aim to hopefully brighten your day.

This is a sweet tale of a senior college student. Her message that “Growing Old is Mandatory, Growing Up is Optional” is unique. Hopefully, we’ll live to a ripe old age as she did.

Our professor greeted us on the first day of class and urged us to get to know someone we didn’t previously know. When a soft hand brushed my shoulder, I got to my feet to take a look around. When I turned back, a small, aged woman with wrinkles was looking up at me with a radiant grin.

She said, “Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?”

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze. “Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.

She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel.

“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.

After class, we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she revelled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester, we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three-by-five cards on the floor.

Frustrated and a little embarrassed, she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry. I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.”

As we laughed, she cleared her throat and began: “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humour every day. You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it!”

“There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything, I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability.”

“The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.”

She concluded her speech by courageously singing the words of the song she called “The Rose” (* the song in this case relates to the words she spoke on the podium)

She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.

At the year’s end, Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation, Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be.

If you read this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they’ll really enjoy it!

Remember, Growing Old is Mandatory, Growing Up is Optional.

5 thoughts on “Growing Up is Optional

    1. Me too – I’ve been called Peter Pan on more than one occasion, and I KNOW it isn’t a compliment. But do you know what – I don’t give a tinkers what other people think. My philosophy, and has been for decades is, if you don’t like me, don’t like what I say, don’t like what I write, that’s your problem.

      But the story is meaningful.
      Growing old may be inevitable nd mandatory but as some famous actress once said, “age is just a number.”
      I’ve met some in their 30’s who are older than others in their 60’s.

      So if you look outside the number, age or growing older is not important.
      It’s how you view life that determines how old you really are.
      Half full or half empty?

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